You have your pastor's support - use it.
Advise your pastor about this guys behavior (front row and down) and ask him to step in next Sunday. If the guy starts to talk trash to the band, he needs to be told by the leadership right then and there that the door is open and don't let it hit you on the way out.
when i am asked to sit in with a praise team it is precisely because i will play the song as the artist recorded it. note for note, perfectly and with the recorded tones also.
after 47 years with a strat or a prs in my hands it's very, very easy.
however, the skill level of many praise band members is not quite as high and i understand that. they are great folks normally doing the best that they can.
i respect that and also recognize that i am there to lend my skills to the praise leader as tool to be used for God's glory.
there's no room for ego or tension on a praise team. it's all about Him.
lose the bass player.
PC - wow this is a thorny field to be walking through!
I have never had this particular situation, but I would encourage you to also figure a way to help the rest of the team. It might be wise for you and your senior pastor to meet with them in order to honestly, but lovingly, address the wrong attitude of this fellow. Sounds like he has already sneezed lots of germs all over them - they probably need some medicine themselves :)
It sounds rough. From what I gather this guy and you aren't getting along. I don't think the way he went about it was right. However, it seems he's putting like a lot of effort and energy to try to get his way. While I don't think it's easy, have you ever thought of about having coffee with him and trying to figure him out? Trying to understand where he is coming from?
Maybe the Lord has set upon his heart an issue that he just can't let go of? Maybe he sees the young people not being nurtured enough? Maybe he sees people not practicing hard enough? (Don't get me wrong, he's definitely not going about it correctly...) Maybe he sees his actions as the only way to get his points across?
Who knows. A great friend of mine and I butted heads a lot when we first met. You can say we pretty much hated each other. However, over time we realized that we were both super passionate about worship and ended up great friends and even recording an album together. It was like blind men and the elephant. We were both are very determined, headstrong and stubborn. So instead of working against each other, we spent our days working together to accomplish both of our goals. We both were so sure of our viewpoints, but weren't willing to see someone's else's.
Not easy. I'm the first to admit I get bent out of shape over little things and I'm stubborn. I'd like to think I'm mellowing over time though. Over time I'm trying to learn to see the world differently, from purely bring in the right and being wronged. Communication is usually the key.
So on Martin Luther King Jr. Day, I leave with this 'hopefully' fitting quote:
"Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into friend." - Martin Luther King Jr.
How very true that quote is Wayne. And if it were strictly about music and I felt like he would meet me half way - I would be all about it. I have had many relationships throughout my 10 years as worship pastor where I have butted heads with people. I have learned to always, always go the extra mile with people. To swallow alot of humble pie and accept fault where there really wan't any. But this fellow - he beats it all. I have a very hard time with people who blatantly try to undermine my ministry (which is what he is trying to do.) As a matter of fact - he tried last summer to blow the ministry up - and was told to "knock it off" by the senior pastor. He left for awhile and then came back - but the behaviour has not changed. Thank you for your response - and you give me the other perspective - I will continue to pray and ask God to show me where I am failing in this situation.
This bass player is a fly in the ointment. Give him the boot and show him the door - now. This is about disunity and creating strife. That's not of God. Tell your pastor about his behavior off stage and see if he will agree to send him away.
But before you do that - I agree with Wayne's approach. See if you can win him over first. If nothing seems to work, you don't have time for that kind of nonsense.