My praise team is very small but we are a group of dedicated musicians/singers who practice every week on a regular basis (and at home on our own). I am not the leader. We have made rules in the past that say "no practice....no play" and made exceptions when the occasional practice is missed. However, we have a member on the team (who also happens to be related to me) who stops coming to practice for 4 months or so in a row (for various reasons). She does inform the leader but here's my question: She then shows for the practice the week of a special event like a coffeehouse, Easter, Christmas or when we play at another church and then is just "made part of the team again". Then a fews weeks later, she'll drop of for another few months. The musical result is not very pleasant. I am not trying to say she shouldn't be allowed to come back to the team. I welcome her.......I'm just wondering how this should be handled? Obviously I can't say anything b/c they are family and we all know what that can do... ....and again I'm not the leader so I feel helpless but very frustrated b/c the rest of us are trying to make something pleasant to draw people to worship. We have to be a team in every sense of the word in order to be effective and this really has a negative impact. The rest of the team is very dedicated so I question the committment. Our leader is a great guy who has a heart of gold but is not assertive. Any ideas?